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Thursday, August 23, 2018
THE WAGES OF WOOING
Since our last article, the kooks in the Manosphere have doubled down, with Dalrock writing a rather laconic piece titled, The Wages of Wooing. Here is his brilliant assessment of traditional courtship:
Attraction to the lady, usually via eyes/glance
Worship of the lady from afar
Declaration of passionate devotion
Virtuous rejection by the lady
Renewed wooing with oaths of virtue and eternal fealty
Moans of approaching death from unsatisfied desire (and other physical manifestations of lovesickness)
Heroic deeds of housework which win the lady’s heart
Repeat steps 1-7 in a continuous loop.
For those who practice courtly love in lieu of Christian marriage, the practical problem is that steps 1-7 won’t win a woman’s heart, and are in fact repulsive. She might however decide to settle, and marry you anyway. If she does, rest assured she will always resent you for it, and will always see herself as a victim."
Ah, such wit. It sets up perfectly the absurdity argued in the last paragraph. You cause resentment in a woman by paying attention to her and treating her as someone special. Somehow this also makes her see herself as a victim.
In the dark and cynical world where the Red Pills reside, attraction is never mutual and is purely a mechanistic sexual reflex. Their narcissism amplifies their negativity; because a relationship, to them, is never one involving mutual benefit. And, as we mentioned last time, this narcissism is so strong that it regards actually pursuing a lady as an act of masculine weakness. They argue instead that men should attract the women.
To underscore how grotesque this theory is, one Dalrock's commenters actually boasted that he secured a great wife by choosing one 'several grades beneath' him in so-called 'sexual market value'--- but she's also one who makes substantially more income than himself. This is hardly a compelling example of manhood.
Women rarely approach men because it takes courage and confidence for a man to court a girl. Confidence and courage is what the ladies---at least women of any value---are looking for.
But the Red Pills know this, and their self-inflicted failures give them a pretext to blame women for them. Their own lack of courage and confidence is the real problem here; and they are in fact the real weaklings.